Women: The Companions not Competitors

Women: The Companions not Competitors

Man challenges the time to go ahead of it before it comes. Man competes with each other to go ahead of each other. Competition has become the philosophy of today’s mankind. With everything competition, man today has violated every rule of law, overwhelmed and divested the status of women and they are widely depressed. They annihilated the women from participating in society building and left them into a very isolated and dismal corner. Her husband has the authority to give her life and death but an angry mob has the ultimate power to stone or beat a woman, often to death for exposing herself a bit.

Similarly, the world’s worst suffering population in Afghanistan is the “Women” who suffered the worst in their lifetime with deprivation, tolerated every injustice and discrimination against herself. Despite several local and international NGOs on the ground claiming that they are to fight violence against women and that they are to protect women from injustice and discrimination. Organizing huge public talks on women rights and child protection, but their all talks seem hopeless and helpless. This is only a claim that the status of women in Afghanistan has changed, yet they are all talks. Women even suffer worst today under the so-called democratic government according to daily reports.

However, a large number of girls enrolled in school and great numbers of women are working in government and non-governmental organizations still face the real violence and harassment in each day they leave for school or work. They face the biggest challenge in their daily life. The fight to eradicate violence against women in our men-dominated society remained inactive and the authorities should not be limited to the armchair viewers, but rather the effort must be beyond their views.

In many countries, the government has developed a proper and equal law for the women too and the circumstances are getting quite hopeful, but in Afghanistan even the rights shaped for the women and poor people are violated and the women are the worst victims. There are laws, but proper execution needs to be focused to ensure that women are truly entitled to an equal opportunities and rights that men do.

The fact is that Afghanistan was always the worst place for women and children. Perhaps, whenever war breaks out in any part of the world, the children and women are impacted the worst. Today, the changes in the life of women in Afghanistan depend upon the people, communities and societies, since there is still a problem in social way of thinking, yet the women to have equal opportunities are not accepted by most of us and they are treated like slaves at home. Both in rural as well as urban areas, women are not considered equal with men. Like men are always served the best food at home, women are served the remaining parts after their husband have their meals. Women are only believed by the Afghan society to do the home chores and nourish their children. People are still with the belief that women are our competitors.

Gender equivalence will be acquired only when the collective community mindset undergo evolution. The setback is that most of the prejudice is considered a way of life and is socially accepted. Most of us confess that women are not treated equally as they are privileged to. We should not forget that the larger mass of the population that doesn’t occupy our little urban world. A large majority of women are still hold in the prisons of social system and they are both economically deprived and socially ill-treated.

The worst of all, the lower class or middle class and working classes are at risk due to inequality that exists in the work places. Although, the number of working women increased in public places, better education and improved job openings, changed mind-set across the country, women persistently continue to experience various types of violence, verbal abuses, physical and emotional antagonism both within their homes and outside. Women are under wild harassment both on the streets and in public transportation by men. This is very common in Afghanistan. Women can’t freely walk or talk on the streets due to men and this has been one of the most humiliated problem going on and now it even become worse.

We might have very often perceived that women are disappointed with various noticeable and explicit ways in the workplaces and they are harassed by their male colleagues and superiors.
Injustice inside family where the girls are forced to accept to go in favor with their parent’s desire and wishes and favors her brother instead. She is owned to marry earlier and that is against her like, whoever is she given to must not ignore because that is the like and desire of her parents. She can’t dare to challenge her parent’s decision under any circumstances. She again works and studies harder to pave the way for better and suitable career in order to live just like her brother, who lives a free life with much favor while owning every facility of his mom and dad.

There are hundreds and thousands of such issues that are not brought to media or we don’t consider it to realize, whereas we are all known to the facts about women in our society. We only celebrate the 8th of March and the other days are just ignored. Do you think in 365 days of the whole year, only one day is enough to fight violence against women? Why authorities who claim to be fighting for the rights of women, don’t walk to the homes of those humiliated women in the rest of the year. Why don’t they visit a woman who is kept in the basement in the whole year?

Mostly combating these all challenges in her life, she becomes habitual to tolerate every kind of discrimination and violence done to her, because she is a woman and she is supposed to bear all kinds of brutality in her lifetime since it’s a tradition in the Afghan society and the Afghan men hate a woman who doesn’t tolerate brutality. Women activists must come up with a reaction this time, no evaluation or research. There has been dozens of evaluation and research on violence against women, but unfortunately yet we have not seen action to be taken against it.

Therefore, there must be an action against VAW. They must organize an active response to the ongoing crises in the life of women in Afghanistan. Women pass the worst life in Afghanistan, particularly in the rural areas. An action must take place to eradicate violence from the root against women so that the members of this society understand that women are the companions not competitors. They must be given the same right that men own. The earth is rich and that there is a place for everyone with equal opportunities and right. There should not be any kind of injustice for being a woman. They must be given their entitlements and we must accept the fact that women are entitled to equal opportunities and rights in our society.

The Article First Published in Daily Outlook Afghanistan Group of Newspapers on March 17, 2012


About samad1986

Abdul Samad Haidari is a poet, writer, teacher and a former freelance journalist, currently residing in Indonesia as a stateless refugee. He is the author of The Red Ribbon He fled his home country at the age of seven and grew up wandering in Pakistan and Iran as a child refugee, and was separated from his family for the majority of his childhood. For two years, at the age of eight and nine, he was forced into child labour in the construction industry in Iran. In contrast, Pakistan offered refugees like him the opportunity to study and work. This education and work experience culminated in Abdul teaching computer studies and English language courses at the Intel Computer Center and Pak Oxford Professionals. After the collapse of the Taliban government, Abdul returned to Afghanistan thinking that the security situation had improved, and that he could take part in the reconstruction of his war-torn country. With this in mind, Abdul served as a freelance journalist and humanitarian aid-worker in areas of the country that remained dangerous to civilians because of the influence of terrorist groups. Abdul served with the Norwegian refugee council (NRC), ActionAid Afghanistan, Daily Outlook Afghanistan group of newspapers, and The Daily Afghanistan Express. As a freelance journalist, Abdul wrote articles and editorials about on-the-ground realities, which were then circulated widely. These had a particular focus on women and children’s rights, corruption, transparency and accountability in government, warlords and terrorist groups’ actions and the systematic persecution of minority groups in both Afghanistan and Pakistan.
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